I’m not a psychologist but I think it’s all about being seen - seen as the very person one is.
He is hurt and lonely - just put oneself in his shoes being motherless and deprived of probably the only person who felt as he did and made him feel understood and loved without being judged, without always only putting him in the role he was supposed to play. He so desperately wanted and wants to be seen in his essence as the person - not a role - that he uses rebellion. And here I’d even go to the lengths to say Princess Di was doing exactly the same. Sometimes deliberately putting the finger in the wound of the Crown smiling in public while knowing all the way that her doing so would be seen way differently within the family than in the opinion of the press. So maybe he’s not so far off the truth when saying he somehow copies her…
Probably those who condemn Harry are only hurt, too? Maybe just miss being acknowledged for who they are and need a hug…
I’ve always liked him, even when I think he is making a mistake or saying too much. The most relatable and open (whether that’s good or bad) one of them all.
But I also don’t like taking sides. The venom I hear being spewed both by those purporting to support him and his wife and those on the other side is so repugnant.
I agree “pain that is not transformed gets transmitted." Harry needs to rethink his own words. There is a lot of pain there. but yet, we should nevertheless celebrate his bravery.
You are right about Charles regularly intervening (remember the publication of private letters sent by Prince Charles to government ministers... the so-called "black spider memos", but it will be a private intervention - surely Harry knows that?
He is a champion for speaking your own truth. And, indeed, as a member of the royal family, a breath of fresh air. But I am shocked at this latest development and his lack of understanding of the difficulties his family have recently come through.
A very empathetic article. I agree, his pain might as well be written on his forehead. So sad that the only way he seems to be able to communicate it tho’ is through the public domain. Where is the wise, older family member or friend that could mediate this in private in order to try to seek reconciliation. Poor lad, I just want to give him a hug
I am deeply enthralled by your heart of compassion for others Mr. Oliver. We must always strive to Love one another as we desire for ourselves and to walk humbly and forgive the fumbles and bumbles of others as we have done those things ourselves many times over... We are all in a learning process each day from the moment we wake up to our lying down. Life is a beautiful gift and each one of us would live life more abundantly contented and at peace by merely giving thanks to the Creator God for this opportunity to experience a time on Earth and all the tools He has provided for us to get through if we just seek them, sometimes with all our heart. In my perspective, LOVE, GRATITUDE, HUMILITY and FORGIVENESS are very powerful forces that bring us great victory and a bless-ed assurance of a contentment on our path. Keep shining 🕊️🤍✨
I agree that Harry deserves compassion, not condemnation. Last week’s ruling was neither just or impartial.
Harry was unfairly denied the opportunity to continue part-time as a working royal and was essentially forced into exile, first to Canada and ultimately to the US when the palace leaked that CA location to the press). The security for his family to which he was entitled would have continued based on the security risks had the royal family not petulantly intervened in an effort to force Harry back into the fold.
The details of his battle to restore his security - including his offer to pay for it himself - are legally nuanced and took place over a lengthy five year period. Yet public opinion is shaped by the very press that vilified and endangered Harry and his young family in the first place - often with palace complicity- because he dared stand up to their excesses and illegal news gathering during much of his life.
The whole Harry story breaks my heart. Whenever I hear him being blamed and criticised, all I can see is that little boy walking behind that coffin.
I agree. The damage runs deep. He is clearly still struggling with it all.
I’m not a psychologist but I think it’s all about being seen - seen as the very person one is.
He is hurt and lonely - just put oneself in his shoes being motherless and deprived of probably the only person who felt as he did and made him feel understood and loved without being judged, without always only putting him in the role he was supposed to play. He so desperately wanted and wants to be seen in his essence as the person - not a role - that he uses rebellion. And here I’d even go to the lengths to say Princess Di was doing exactly the same. Sometimes deliberately putting the finger in the wound of the Crown smiling in public while knowing all the way that her doing so would be seen way differently within the family than in the opinion of the press. So maybe he’s not so far off the truth when saying he somehow copies her…
Probably those who condemn Harry are only hurt, too? Maybe just miss being acknowledged for who they are and need a hug…
Agree. We all need a hug!
Also - to understand how past trauma and pain leads to present behaviour.
I’ve always liked him, even when I think he is making a mistake or saying too much. The most relatable and open (whether that’s good or bad) one of them all.
But I also don’t like taking sides. The venom I hear being spewed both by those purporting to support him and his wife and those on the other side is so repugnant.
Agreed. It’s not the way to find peace and reconciliation.
I agree “pain that is not transformed gets transmitted." Harry needs to rethink his own words. There is a lot of pain there. but yet, we should nevertheless celebrate his bravery.
You are right about Charles regularly intervening (remember the publication of private letters sent by Prince Charles to government ministers... the so-called "black spider memos", but it will be a private intervention - surely Harry knows that?
I think a lot of it is raw anger - and much of this is a proxy for that.
He is a champion for speaking your own truth. And, indeed, as a member of the royal family, a breath of fresh air. But I am shocked at this latest development and his lack of understanding of the difficulties his family have recently come through.
A very empathetic article. I agree, his pain might as well be written on his forehead. So sad that the only way he seems to be able to communicate it tho’ is through the public domain. Where is the wise, older family member or friend that could mediate this in private in order to try to seek reconciliation. Poor lad, I just want to give him a hug
Definitely - agree he needs more hugs than brickbats.
I am deeply enthralled by your heart of compassion for others Mr. Oliver. We must always strive to Love one another as we desire for ourselves and to walk humbly and forgive the fumbles and bumbles of others as we have done those things ourselves many times over... We are all in a learning process each day from the moment we wake up to our lying down. Life is a beautiful gift and each one of us would live life more abundantly contented and at peace by merely giving thanks to the Creator God for this opportunity to experience a time on Earth and all the tools He has provided for us to get through if we just seek them, sometimes with all our heart. In my perspective, LOVE, GRATITUDE, HUMILITY and FORGIVENESS are very powerful forces that bring us great victory and a bless-ed assurance of a contentment on our path. Keep shining 🕊️🤍✨
I agree that Harry deserves compassion, not condemnation. Last week’s ruling was neither just or impartial.
Harry was unfairly denied the opportunity to continue part-time as a working royal and was essentially forced into exile, first to Canada and ultimately to the US when the palace leaked that CA location to the press). The security for his family to which he was entitled would have continued based on the security risks had the royal family not petulantly intervened in an effort to force Harry back into the fold.
The details of his battle to restore his security - including his offer to pay for it himself - are legally nuanced and took place over a lengthy five year period. Yet public opinion is shaped by the very press that vilified and endangered Harry and his young family in the first place - often with palace complicity- because he dared stand up to their excesses and illegal news gathering during much of his life.